Thursday, May 26, 2011
The Sandwich Generation
These past few weeks have been busy ones.
I’m the peanut butter in a generational sandwich, helping my aging mom at the very same time my kids are raising their own kids and looking to me for a measure of involvement in their lives, and even occasional help.
It’s a rich blessing to be involved with multiple generations. It’s also a recipe for intense busyness.
I find myself sandwiching mom’s doctor appointments in between end-of-the-school-year events my grandkids have invited me to. Or I fit in watching a 2-year old between my mom’s women’s group game night and fixing my husband’s dinner.
Speaking of my husband, he has his own calendar of events and occasions he’d like us to be part of; he’s a patient man, but he’d like some time and attention, too. It almost seems selfish to mention the long-delayed career, the hobbies and interests, the other friends I’d like to have time for.
I’m certainly not alone in facing these issues. Many women – and men – around my age are helping to care for aging parents even as they carry responsibility for younger family members, work, and civic duties.
How do we fit it all in? How do we make it all work? Where are the practical tips that will help us manage all the things we’re trying to manage?
Let’s talk about that over these next few weeks.